They warned us early and often. If you slept with a boy, you would leave with a baby. Not always right away but eventually, inevitably, as though a body were a door that only opened one way. Sex led to pregnancy. Pregnancy led to a baby. Marriage made the whole arrangement respectable. Nobody was particularly […]
Two Pensions, Two Failures We’ve folded every version of family financial obligation into one word, “black tax,” and the word does us a disservice. There’s a difference between the mother stretching a broken pension and the uncle who’s learned that guilt is a renewable resource. One is a debt we’re honoured to repay. The other […]
There are two versions of adulthood: the one we were promised, and the one we’re actually living in. I’d like to formally introduce you to the second one.
I don’t know who wrote the script, exactly, but somehow we all received a copy
It’s been a while since our last post here. So I am not really sure how to start this. Life has just been happening. Let’s play catch up, maybe that would be a good place to start. I will try to answer a few questions that keep popping up.. On not posting “Are you pregnant?” […]
Happy Friday dear Tomboys, Been a minute since we were last here. It is my hope that you are all keeping well and enjoying the daily little life pleasures that are giving you joy. How grateful are you for this year so far? Rael has been busy adulting, so a little breaks here and there […]
What is the difference between Ankara and Kitenge? I woke up one day and what I knew from my childhood as Kitenge is now called Ankara. Well, it’s still a fabric But are you even African if you are not trying this Ankara/kitenge fabric? I don’t know what African story inspires you to […]
My dad is one man I have seen with and in one hat for as long as I can remember. I looked at the old beige cowboy the last time I was home and felt the weight of age on him. He leaned in my palms to give one last bow, majestic, a turn of […]
Good morning dear Tomboys, How are you doing? What is making you happy, what’s ailing you, who are you doing , have you been nice to others? In the last couple of weeks, I have experimented with more pairs of shorts than trousers. I guess it’s because I have accepted my super dry skin, skin […]
I am quietly observing people at a restaurant, trying to figure out what words to put out here. Sipping my coffee away, while staring at my some piece of apple cinnamon cake that I have eaten but my taste buds won’t let me finish it because it’s too sweet. Seeing that I can’t seem to […]
Happy new year dear Tomboys, I hope the first two weeks of 2019 have been kind to you all. Considering my only wish last year was good health for everyone in my life, I am grateful that we all arrived alive . With good health, I am still up and down trying to figure […]